Today as I begin writing for 21 Days on Resonant Healing Language, I want to ask you something, does any of this feel familiar in your own life?
Do you carry old feelings that don’t seem to fade, even though years have passed? Do certain memories still live in your body, even when your mind insists you should be “over it” by now? Do you long for someone who can simply be with you, without fixing, judging or rushing you along, to listen and validate your experiences?
If so, you’re not alone. And you’re in exactly the right place.
Resonant Healing Language is a way of meeting ourselves and others with warmth, curiosity and deep respect. It helps us find words for experiences that were too overwhelming, too confusing or too lonely at the time they happened. It gives our nervous system a chance to soften and thaw, so that life can move again where it once felt frozen.
My own path into this work began many years ago. I first came to Sarah Peyton in 2008 with some stubborn childhood memories that wouldn’t shift and my little self was trying to steer the bus and struggling (of course). We worked on the phone, then on Skype, and now I’m comfortable working on Zoom with the video on and have started offering learning opportunities too.
Over time, this work has helped both my inner child and the adult who once became caught in a controlling relationship to be freer. Untangling from those strands of trauma has taken time, and I’ve been incredibly well supported by Sarah Peyton herself and by this body of work. My brain is now a much kinder, warmer and more resilient place to live. Our brains can change and grow and heal.
I’ve since completed a full year of rigorous training as a Resonant Healing Language Practitioner 2024-25, and I now assist on some of Sarah’s online trainings. Most of my work is in 1:1 private sessions where I listen, attune and offer resonant guesses to accompany people as they meet the emotions, memories and felt sense impressions that are still alive in their nervous systems. Are you up-to-date with all that you have lived? Do you have some loose ends or stones in your shoe which niggle and hurt?
My role is to walk with folk wherever their mind and speech take them. I’m not analysing, fixing or simply reflecting back with empathy. I’m helping them go deeper and access the silent, frozen strands of trauma that loop in the brain and body. With warmth and curiosity and attuned accompaniment, people begin to put words to memories that were never fully held at the time.
Sometimes we look at Unconscious Contracts, the things we promise to ourselves as kids to try and make sense of the world in an attempt to make our lives safer. Together we uncover these vows, and see if they are still working for us, or if they are ready to be updated.
I often use a Time Travel process, returning to a younger self or even the version of us from yesterday, making the environment safe, and offering the warm presence that was missing back then. It’s an honour to hear people speak about things they’ve never been able to say out loud before. I hold space for their tears, their snot, their grief and their truth. And sometimes for their joy, which can be just as overwhelming when it was never welcomed or given space before. Big emotions can be silently forbidden in families – girls and anger are not always welcome, boys and grief too.
When we stifle one emotion, we often suppress our whole emotional range. As humans, some of our deepest longings are to know that we matter and that we are understood. Resonance is not about agreeing with someone or condoning their actions but to meet people emotionally as they are, where you are. Nor is it about giving advice or fixes. Research shows that unsolicited advice adds spikes of cortisol, even when offered with the best intentions.
My job is to support your nervous system to move more safely and freely and to greet every expression or silence with warmth. In the moment this may melt some of the frozen trauma strands and helps us rise out of fight, flight and fear, and alarmed aloneness back into social engagement. Here, the thinking part of the brain comes back online and people can begin to problem solve for themselves.
I regularly work with people who are caught in early childhood memories, neglect, confusion, unexpressed anger and oceans of unshed grief. Together we move through memories and gently defrost the frozen trauma so that love and life can flow more easily again.
So let me ask you again, if it’s ok, is there something you can’t speak about with friends or family any more? Something you or they think you should have “got over” by now? Something that still lives in your body, even if you can barely speak of it?
If so, you’re welcome here. You don’t have to push anything away. You don’t have to pretend. You don’t have to be fine. I’ll help you find the words, offer you fresh metaphors and name experiences that have yet to be acknowledged.
You only need to bring your honest self, just as you are. It is not therapy, you can come for one session, but it is based on the neuroscience of what helps our brains heal and over time grow new neurons of safety and self warmth.
If you’d like to explore whether this work could support you, you’re welcome to book a free 15 minute call with me.
Together we can use words as medicine to see how your nervous system can become an easier place to live. I’m a trauma-educated resonant healing listener, and I’m ready when you are,
With warmth
Lucy
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ps and come back tomorrow for further understanding of this wonderful work