“Our bodies, quite literally, hold the trauma and stress of the past, including painful childhood experiences and the traumas of the generations before us.”
Sarah Peyton, Nueroscience educator and Master Family Constellator
Family Constellations is a ground-breaking methodology for healing trauma and allowing us to have insights into our current challenges, be they personal, family or professional. We can see a new persective by being opened to a much bigger picture. A picture which includes seeing our family as they are, no better or worse, our early childhood experiences and the circumstances that influence us and the impact of our parents’ and ancestors lives too. We can explore deep into the root causes of our behaviours and gain new insights and perspectives which can shift long held patterns.
This unique approach may be supported by talking therapies but does not replace counselling, it offers a unique lens and the possibility of significant shifts where none may have felt possible before.
There is an energy which connects us to each other, and everyone to everyone else, we call this the Field. Using the lens of the Field, a Facilitator can see the connections, where energy is stuck or misplaced and work on restoring harmony, balance and order to your energy and this of course, affects you and your family in positive ways too.
This work can be done individually, online and in group workshops.
Join Lucy Ascham at Whirlow Spirituality Centre, Sheffield, to experience the power of Family & Systemic Constellations. On these half, full day & weekend workshops, we’ll work together to help restore order, balance and harmony to yours, and the Issue Holder’s, family systems. The structure and content for the half, one day and the weekend workshops is the same, only the number of Constellations I can facilitate in that time frame is different. You can secure your place as the Issue Holder or Seeker for the October weekend, these seeker places will be chosen in a lottery for the half day workshops.
Your mind is made up of pieces of your family, stretching back through the generations – as such, the way you think, react and behave is often down to them too. By bringing those dynamics to the surface of your conscious mind, we can move them, change them and set you free from whatever’s holding you back.
There is no acting or role play here. More an offering of yourself and your body resonance in service of another. No special skills are required, just an openness to feel your feelings and report what you notice when asked. Everyone can benefit from insights, new perspectives and healing in any of these 3 roles. There are huge benefits to be gained as a Rep or Witness, opening your heart and eyes to new perspectives, insights and Ah ha moments for your own family and life. There is always an overlap between your own issues and those who you are in the room with. The healing movements you see and support can change you and your family system for the better.
The Issue Holder is the name we give to the client or person who brings their personal issue to explore. This is typically something which feels like a burden, something which just won’t go away despite talking about it or looking at it in other ways that you have a deep heart-longing for. In practical terms, you, as ‘the issue holder’, tell us about the issue you would like to work on. This needn’t involve very much explanation, in fact it’s better if it doesn’t. I will then help you choose people from the workshop circle to represent elements and relevant family members and place them in the circle - this forms the beginning of a Constellation.
In place of the family members and/or elements of the issue you’ve chosen, we will ask people to stand. These are your representatives. The representatives are likely to feel emotions, urges and/or sensations, which originate from your family system. This is because they will become connected to the energy field of your family constellation. Previously hidden dynamics are often revealed or highlighted by this process, which will allow you to move closer to perspective, clarity and a solution.
The Witness is someone who helps form the circle, but does not take an active role as an element or representative. This is also an important position where you can have a useful first step into the work. Of course, people can still have strong experiences and be changed by what they see and feel. The ripples of this work go out into their own families too. Sitting, watching and feeling shares the workload between all the bodies and nervous systems and souls present. People choose this place multiple times before feeling ready to do their own piece of work.
“I thought Lucy’s facilitation skills were excellent. Her mindfulness and ability to hold suffering and the weight of the room, the energy! The whole experience was very useful. I feel much more confident, self-assured, and steady to face my family issues! There is a lot more clarity in my mind now and I feel so grateful. Lucy is very calm, graceful and prepared to meet challenges head-on. I really encourage anyone who hasn’t tried family constellations to give it a go, and especially with Lucy as you will be in safe hands – a supportive and friendly guide to light the way.”
“Family Constellations work for me was fascinating, inspiring, kind, hopeful – all in all, really rather wonderful. There really is a magical quality to the process and your containment of the group enabled that to freely emerge. I’m certainly feeling freer and lighter. Also my back pain has massively reduced, just shows what happens when we stop carrying those old, heavy loads."
“Being part of the Constellation was an amazing experience. It was fascinating to see the unravelling (in a really good way) and understanding of my own and others’ past hurts and confusions by stepping into another’s shoes.
Lucy was a very skilful leader who guided us through the process, so even as someone who’s never done this before, I felt deeply moved through many emotions of sadness, numbness, relief, comprehension, always with the option of stepping back out of role at any time.