It’s messy

I’ve been away recently, had some shelves put up on the landing, painting in the lodger’s bedroom and had a friend visiting.

My house is messy.

I’ve got washing to process, paint pots and a ladder in my bedroom and various things piled up ready to go to : the loft, the charity shop or back to a friend.

I know I need to get organised, and coordinate some jobs so I don’t waste time going up and down stairs carrying just one thing or back and forth to the charity shop with one pair of trousers, or a single outgrown jumper.

Nor do I want to leave it all until ‘someday’ as that day never happens.

A few months ago I called on the services of an Organiser. A lovely woman came to my house and we looked at various hot-spots for clutter and she helped me make a plan. She sent me links and suggested some storage solutions. She helped me think it through and start to make some inroads into my mess. 

With fresh eyes she saw things which I couldn’t see. With a different perspective, she helped me see solutions right in front of my nose.

Now when I look at my piles of things – I have a plan, some direction and am no longer stuck.

When we are in pain – from injury, illness or everyday wear and tear, our body and emotions can feel messy. There are various aches and pains, but perhaps nothing is too bad, on its own, to seek help. 

We get used to pain, and block it out, numb it out, with TV, wine and tension. 

Tension can be useful in the short term.

We stub our toe and tension will help protect it, in the short term, from further damage. We walk on our heel, favour the other leg for a while to avoid feeling the pain, and some of these habits stick around for a long time, even after the initial toe has healed long ago.

The same goes for emotional pain, things which were left over from our childhood, leftovers from our parents who could not deal with their emotions. Partly they were in survival mode. Partly from the legacy of war, perhaps. Partly there weren’t many therapists available.

Here at Lucy Ascham Pain and Trauma Facilitation, I have over 20 years working with people to help them sort through their messy emotions and outdated habits. Things which once served us, but no longer do. Things which we keep around us which no longer fit who we are or how we want to live now.

I help people make a plan, get direction, and get unstuck from the past. Body. Mind. Emotions.

I bring fresh eyes, a new perspective and some fresh energy to help you discover new pathways through and towards…

If you are feeling curious, or the pain and mess has finally got enough for you to do something about it, please call me 07949 522655 and we can discuss your needs and goals and how I might be able to help you get there.

OK, I’m off to move some paint pots back to their home in the cellar.

Feb 2024

Written by Lucy Ascham, Body & Soul Energy Expert

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"It is as though I have been gifted an entirely new lens through which to view human behaviour, and it is a lens of compassion and empathy like no other. Due to this, I have been able to come to terms with the way my family operates, which has proven to be a great relief. I would definitely recommend working with Lucy. She held such a safe space for me and my vulnerability with great compassion and authenticity."


"Using these techniques has helped me reduce the day-to-day tension I’ve developed over a lifetime of anxious habits and hypersensitivity. It’s been amazing to re-learn how my body works, and how to swap out the survival mechanisms that got me so far, for habits more in keeping with how my body is happier to work."

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Zoe, Singer

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Julian Davis, Retired Professor of Medicine & Pianist

"I've just had two enjoyable and useful sessions with Lucy on Zoom. I had been doubtful about how it would work but I was pleased with how it went. Of course, nothing is as good as face-to-face but we are where we are and this was great and has helped me to progress as I had hoped. Thank you. Looking forward to the next ones!"


"Lucy's sessions are amazing. Her unique blend of skills helped me have good posture without effort. Before this, I had seen many physiotherapists and osteopaths, but the pain kept coming back within a few weeks. Even after my first session with Lucy, the difference was so clear that my friends commented on it. After several months, the effects are being maintained with her support."




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