How to do Family Constellations

Navigating the Depths of Family Constellations: A Journey of Healing and Insight


Embarking on a journey of healing and insight through Family Constellations can be a transformative experience. In this guide, we’ll explore the fundamental steps and principles of Family Constellations, offering a roadmap for those who seek to navigate the depths of their familial relationships and ancestral patterns.

Understanding Family Constellations

Family Constellations is a therapeutic approach that originated from the pioneering work of Bert Hellinger. At its core, it seeks to illuminate the hidden dynamics within families and ancestral lineages, shedding light on unresolved traumas, entanglements, and systemic patterns that impact our lives.

Setting Intentions

Before diving into a Family Constellation session, it’s essential to set clear intentions for what you hope to explore or resolve. Whether it’s healing ancestral wounds, understanding relationship dynamics, or gaining clarity on personal challenges, articulating your intentions can guide the constellation process. The facilitator will help you shape this during an interview with them at the beginning of an exploration session.

Choosing a Facilitator

Finding the right facilitator is crucial for a successful Family Constellation experience. Look for someone who is experienced, compassionate, and well-versed in the principles of Constellations therapy. Research their background, read client testimonials, and trust your intuition when selecting a facilitator.

Preparing for the Session

As you prepare for your Family Constellation session, take time to reflect on the questions or issues you wish to explore. Consider journaling, meditation, or engaging in other reflective practices to deepen your awareness and readiness for the constellation process. Finding out significant facts about relevant family members can also be useful – what big events did they experience – war, marriage, loss, etc Don’t worry if you don’t have any information, we don’t always know who our father was, or if they had any previous relationships or other children. We can explore your system with what you know.

Attending the Session

During the Family Constellation group session, participants gather in a supportive and sacred space. This can be online or in person. The facilitator guides the group through a series of exercises designed to illuminate the underlying dynamics of the system. Each participant may represent different elements of the family or ancestral lineage, embodying the roles of family members or significant events.

Navigating the Constellation

As the constellation unfolds, participants observe and engage with the dynamics that emerge. Through representing, dialogue, and guided reflection, insights begin to surface, revealing hidden patterns, traumas, and entanglements within the family system. Trust the process and remain open to whatever arises.

Integration and Reflection

After the constellation process concludes, take time to integrate and reflect on your experience. Journaling, artwork, or embodied practices can help you process and assimilate the insights gained during the session. Sometimes a walk in nature or a warm bath works wonders too. Be gentle with yourself and honour the emotions that may arise as you navigate this journey of healing and discovery.

A constellation exploration is often a way of finding movement where none seemed possible, it is the start of a movement. The movement itself may unfold over weeks, months and years gradually revealing more understanding as time progresses.

Continuing the Journey

Family Constellations is not a one-time fix but an ongoing journey of exploration and healing. Consider participating in additional private constellations sessions, or attend a workshop with other people as the issue holders, and let time help you integrate the insights gained. Remember that healing is a journey, and each step forward brings us closer to wholeness.


Embarking on the journey of Family Constellations is a courageous act of self-discovery and healing. By navigating the depths of our familial relationships and ancestral patterns, we gain profound insights, healing, and transformation for ourselves and our family system.

Trust in the process, honor your journey, and embrace the power of Family Constellations to illuminate the path forward.

If you feel ready to take your next step into the Family Constellations work, send me an email lucy@lucyascham.com and let’s see if this might be a good fit for you.

Written by Lucy Ascham, Body & Soul Energy Expert

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