Constellations – The Witness/Rep

The Representative’s experience – Jo

Jo is studying in England, and comes from Asia.  I have tried to keep the essence of her words and changed a few for ease of reading.  

People often experience new insights, different perspectives and a flow of emotions – I was blown away by all the changes Jo experienced on her first ever Constellation Workshop!


Jo says: “I’m very glad to share my magical shifts after the Constellation Weekend Workshop.  

A friend of mine invited me to come.  I had no previous experience of this work and came to Witness and perhaps to be a Representative.

Firstly, I’d like to talk about the physical shifts which changed after the weekend.  

A few years ago, I had a problem with my heart, with insufficient blood supply, after minor surgery I am completely recovered.  I mention this as, after the Constellation weekend I felt loads of blood smoothly flowing into my heart when I got home, and I could clearly feel the fullness and weight of my chest – in a good way.

I now know I can resource my energy from a wider range of sources. 

My inner strength, has made my breath easier than ever.  Previously I considered breath as something I had to do to sustain my life which felt like a burden to carry around. Now breath is more of what naturally happens because of my existence, it’s no longer a pressure on me. I felt full and complete, and grateful for what I have.

As for mental shifts, I have loads to speak about.  

I believe that every small physical change is associated with mental change.

The part about my heart blood, I consider the changes as a result of Love. 

During the constellation, I Represented and ‘become’ a mother, a grandmother, a great grandmother in a family.  This means I have experienced what it’s like to be responsible for another person, to genuinely care for another, to love a person no matter what they have become, to connect someone’s pain to my own behaviors. 

Suddenly, I realize how much love I have received from my parents and grandparents.  

Throughout my whole life, I was expecting and asking too much from my family.  I was being critical and perfectionist. 

Now I feel grateful.  I receive the love of my parents and grandparents.  I got enough.

With my new inner strength, I have gained the courage to express myself. 

My parents are not good listeners most of the time, they tend to insist on their own beliefs while ignoring mine, denying what I think and feel. The Constellation with Lucy allowed me to feel safe, to share my true feelings, the way that I was observed, listened to, and respected by the other people in the room made me feel that I am important and valuable, that there is a reason I exist.

These values are basically what drive people to stay alive!

Also, I managed to lose a lot of self-doubt when I am not being perfect, when I was not chosen at some important time, when I was hurt by others.  I have learned to be stable in my body, my natural being.

Another valuable acquisition is the consolidation of my belief that everyone is having a difficult life. 

To know what others are going through roused my empathy for people.  I have been gifted a broader mind, to tolerate and understand another’s situation instead of simply blaming him/her for what they do. 

I can easily be happy bearing that thought in mind, because no one is doing anything wrong! 

This belief also shifts my focus from worrying about what people think of me to “What I can do to make people feel better?”

It turns out my small favors can make me and others happy at the same time!

I am really grateful that my friend brought me to the Constellation workshop with Lucy, it has positively transformed me. 

It is important to tell people – its ok to learn to feel. Mostly others tell us what to think. 

Through feeling all these feelings and having all these new experiences, I have changed so much already.  The Constellation work is a precious gift to me, none of these transformations could happened without your work.  

Thank you Lucy for what you do!”

IF you feel curious to know more about this groundbreaking methodology, get in touch and have a chat with me. I offer 1:1 sessions on zoom, or in Nethergreen Sheffield and love to share the work in groups. See my What’s On calendar for my next workshops.

Written by Lucy Ascham, Body & Soul Energy Expert

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